Can Astrology Really Make A Positive Change?

Can Astrogoly Really Make A Positive Change?

Just to tell you the secret; my suggestions/ advices through some chants, Rudraksha combinations, gems and stones, color therapies, name changes can’t change time or destiny of any one but they surely helps you aligning yourself to world / inner karmic

Role of Karma

Can one change the destiny by hard work? If everything is already destined, then why karma? Let's understand. .... As per astrology, considering the life span of human as 120 years, there will be all maha dasha, antar dasha, pratyantar Dasha of all planets

FOOD FIGHT....EVERY MOM'S TURF!!

Here are few things you need to do after receiving Yantra: You should place the Yantra after bath in the morning in direction as stated in other post. Light incense/oil lamp, offer a flower and chant the deity mantra or mantra of Yantra a minimum of 1008

Teach Your Child To Express EMOTIONS!!

As a parent we teach so many things to our children.We are eager to make them multi talented personalities. It is very common to see young parents hopping from one activity class to other along with the apple of their eyes. These kids learn drawing , dance , Taekwondo , public speaking and are into many other fancy activities .They make their parents proud in all the social get-togethers , but sometimes the parent comes face to face with another aspect of their child .The "Oh so adorable child" , expressing himself in not so gentle manner. It comes as a shocker for the parent.They feel a surge of mixed emotions , anger ,embarrassment and sometimes even a sense of failure as a parent.

It compels us to think whether , along with various activities , is it a requirement of time to teach our children to handle their emotions too.We are what we feel, and how we express . A child gives a tight hug and a kiss to mother and gets the same in return.He goes to his first school and does the same with friends , irrespective of gender and get an instruction of "Don't , touch any one" OR "Do not kiss or hug your friend". That's the first confusion which the child comes across.

They see their parents and their role models in various movies and cartoons who take up anger to change the world, they also use that weapon to change their small world , to get few extra T.V hours , little more play time , few more games , few more chocolates ...few more...few more.But alas! They get rebuke of parent who refuse to give in to their demands.Another confusion......!!!

Our children need training and guidance , for the most important life skill , expression of their feelings . When to express , How to express and Whom to express. Home is the first school..it is an age old saying .Mother of a pre-schooler was embarrassed as the little one was tagged as Emran Hashmi of the school.The sweet little one , was just loving his friend. Teach them the importance of their love and emotion and help them to identify the people worthy enough to get their precious emotion!! May be"Hug someone , if you love them equal to mommy" will work at an early stage.Later , make them understand that expression of affection is not bad ,but has to be weighed upon before showing it to someone.Don't get angry when your child says ," I love ....." any of his or her friend. It is normal ,we all know than why create a furor over it. Talk to them , if possible share your adolescence stories too, the more accepting you are , the more relaxed they will feel and it is a passing phase...which will soon pass!!!

Practice what you want to teach , if you express your anger , violently don't expect the child to be mature and obey restrictions.They will show their anger as they have learnt to express. Just the other day child in my activity center ,used explicit words , which even elders would think twice before using in normal circumstances.Parents were very well educated , and personally known to me, I was perplexed and when inquired him ,he told me..."Papa said to uncle who rammed his bike into our car" . Now , the scene was clear. We cant blame , the father too , it was circumstantial reaction , but not giving an explanation of his reaction made an impression on the child that , this is the way we can show our anger . Teach kids to value emotion and relations. Before showing your anger to your child , self Analise for a second , that your reaction will be doing good or bad for your child.Take a deep breath and count till ten , give time out to yourself and lastly talk to the tiny adult in front of you!! I am sure you both will find a way and he will learn to handle his anger well.

Don't shy away from their questions . Give them satisfactory age appropriate answer. It is always good to share your experience with children instead leaving them to explore on their own. Growing up is a journey done together as a Parent and child. We have to teach them to identify their emotions and express it too!!!

Discipline Your Toddler-Lovingly

As the bundle of joy comes into our lives, so does the responsibility. The little baby grows up and starts learning ways of life.The two individuals who had a controlled life, suddenly find a little baby who want to have his own path! The child loves to explore new things which may not come into our criteria of what we want our child to learn. 0-1 year is the most delicate phase for the new born as well as the new parents. Every day is a challenge where the parent child bond is getting stronger day by day. Even though the age between 0-6months is not for discipline, it is advisable to have a routine for the new born. Sleep pattern is not regulated but , by 3months it starts getting regulated and new parents should stick to a fixed daily routine for the child. Daily routine once set, even the child looks forward to it. Set a fixed time for massage , bathe ,food and outing too!! As the child starts interacting with you , start using words to show your appreciation as well as disapproval. Give a clap , say “wow”’ , “Good girl/boy” when your child achieves even small feat. At the same time use “NO” too ,to show what you disapprove. It is essential for the child to understand the meaning of “ NO” .

As a parent we also have to keep a check ,whether we are using “NO” too often. We can't expect toddlers to sit at one place for more the 10-20 minutes, so moving around the house , playing with toys (making mess around the house) doesn’t comes under criteria of “NO”. Playing is serious business for children where they are developing there skills .

Disciplining toddlers is as important as taking care of their needs. Disciplining a child need not to be harsh always. You can inculcate discipline in your child lovingly too.Make your child understand the meaning of NO. The child should know that you disapprove certain activities which he/she has to stop when this word is being used.Limit the usage of this word for few actions , or else the child will get confused and not obey it.

The security of the child should be first the priority. Use `NO’ immediately if the child is touching electric points , going towards balcony or towards the stairs.They all are naughty and believe me they all love to do these things.

Throwing away toys /things to show their displeasure is a common attribute of kids. Any such action has to be followed by your NO, loving yet firm.

As the child grows They may have tendency to push , hit or may be to bite….don’t panic!! These are not behavioral disorder, just growing up challenges. The key is to be vigilant and stop them at every unacceptable behavior. Be consistent in your criteria of denial. Before deciding any reaction try to find the reason behind a particular behavior. These little chipmunks may try some tactics just to gain your attention too!! This may happen , in cases where both the parents are working , and are away for long time. Make the child feel loved ,which should involve lot of cuddling as the child understands the feel of loving touch!! Talk to him that- Mum-ma Papa love u a lot...but had to go out for work , which everyone has to go!!

Be firm n consistent in your choices, yet flexible and loving . Lastly relax and take it easy as parenting is a learning process all through the way!!

Discipline Your Toddler-Lovingly

“ Baby food is a bone of contention between me and my husband. We get into fight over what is right for him to eat.”

Nutrition is a major concern for all the mothers and it is also their major woe . Market is flooded with varied packaged baby foods but they can’t beat the food cooked by the mother as it has a special ingredient called LOVE !!

As soon the child turns 6 months we start solid food for them . Start with Fresh juice ,vegetable soup and suji kheer (semolina cooked in milk).When child starts teething give him fresh peeled carrot , bread sticks as it will develop taste as well as serve the purpose too. Kids take time to develop liking for a new taste or texture. Give at least a weeks time to the child when u introduce any new food or taste.

As the child grows start giving him food cooked for rest of the family devoid of chili of course! Instead of giving bland mashed potato give them mashed vegetable may be a bit of upper soft layer of chapatti too. Believe me toddler too love tasty food…. J The humble Khichri is a perfect well balanced diet as it has carbohydrate protein and vitamins too!!

Milk intake is always considered to be very important for children , ofcourse it is but some kids take time to develop the liking for it. Don’t get panicked if your little one does not like to take milk , try curd or fruit yogurt which is tasty and equally nutritious!

When you little one is nearing two , he becomes more choosy and has developed better taste too. While this is a fun time to see your little one learning about various food items it is a challenging time for mothers . While feeding your 2-4 year old follow few handy tips.

Meal time should be fixed with preferably a fixed place too. The child should be knowing that it is a meal time and look forward to it.

Make the meal time a fun time with lot of talking or may be story ! The food should be tasty tempting and sound good too J!!

For 2-4 year old make sure the fixed routine is followed. The breakfast lunch dinner has to be followed along with small in between meals or snacks time too as the little ones can not eat at one go..

Make sure the food looks tempting. If the child is making fuss over certain fruits and vegetables…do what mothers do best ! Hide all the greens in soups , and stuff parathas and mix the fruits in juices and smoothies too!

Kids love the presentation….make parathas or sanwhiches of different shapes…make a yummy vegetable cutlet n make a nice burger with accompanying shake as a meal. Make the humble roti as a tortilla with sprout n vegetable stuffing.

As the child starts pre- school there is more need of nutrition. Don’t send the child to school only with a glass of milk of 2 biscuit. Make sure he has a healthy breakfast before leaving home. Porridge , upma , idli ,milk cornflakes with dry fruits all make very tasty and healthy choices.

As the children grow up they develop taste for varied food items and start demanding it too and this is the time to develop healthy food habits of children .Follow yourself what you want them to follow . If you eat fat laden junk food do not expect child to be fruit and veggies lover. Healthy food need not to be bland. Make healthy tiffin recipes so that child finishes off the snack box n you both can have a big smile on your faces.

Don’t make food a fight .It is fun to cook and satisfying to see your loved one eat and ask for more!!Unleash your food creativity …blend taste into health and see your little one growing tall!!